Whenever you encounter someone
who’s trying to become a better person,
someone who’s learning,
someone who’s growing,
someone who’s living their truth,
and you’re not ready
to add value to their life,
please respect them,
their path, and their energy,
and just admire them from afar.
Don’t interrupt their becoming.
Don’t try to dull
their fucking shine.
My mission in life is not merely to survive,
but to thrive; and to do so
with some passion, some compassion,
some humor, and some style.
Learning the language of my body
is important. It tells me about
my needs and my insides.
It tells me about my environment
and my energy exchange with others.
When I ignore or silence this voice,
my body reaches out in whatever way
it can to get my attention…
often in increasingly dramatic and
The voice of my body will not
It is a force of nature.
So, I listen.
Authenticity is when you say and do
the things you actually believe.
Can the purpose of a relationship be to trigger our wounds?
In a way, yes, because that is how healing happens; darkness must be exposed before it can be transformed.
The purpose of an intimate relationship is not that it be a place where we can hide from our weaknesses, but rather where we can safely let them go.
It takes strength of character to truly delve into the mystery of an intimate relationship, because it takes the strength to endure a kind of psychic surgery, an emotional and psychological and even spiritual initiation into the higher Self.
Only then can we know an enchantment that lasts.
Children see magic
because they look for it.
Love me or hate me.
I don’t care. I really don’t.
And it took me a long time
to reach the point of
being completely unaffected
by someone else’s opinion about me.
It was hard work, but no one can
take that away from me now.
That soul work I did and all I’m still doing;
It’s mine. I own it. It belongs to me.
I belong to me and only me.
No one has the power to touch it,
take it, or even look into the way
I have rebuilt myself after
free falling for so long.
I am as free as I have ever been.
Powerful, brave, graceful and strong;
I did that and it’s beautiful.
No one has the power to turn it ugly.
My favourite people
are those with
and deep thoughts
and brave voices
and soft brows
and strong backs
and dancing feet
and colourful feelings
that will hold mine
when I need
a bit of reassurance.
Go back and take care of yourself.
Your body needs you,
your feelings need you,
your perceptions need you.
Your suffering needs you
to acknowledge it.
Go home and be there
for all these things.
(Thich Nhat Hanh)
I want people to step into their power
and to share their successes and
their stories of healing because
that’s how others know it’s possible.
People can heal. Even from the
most dire circumstances, people do heal.
It’s important for others to hear that
because it gives them encouragement.
You yourself are the eternal energy
which appears as this universe.
You didn’t come into this world.
You came out of it,
like a wave from the ocean.
You are not a stranger here.
Many of us feel uncomfortable revealing to others - and even to ourselves - what lies beneath the surface of our day-to-day consciousness.
We get out of bed in the morning and begin again where we left off yesterday, attacking life as if we were waging a campaign of control and survival.
All the while, deep within us, flows an endless river of pure energy.
It sings a low and rich song that hints of joy and liberation and peace. Up on top, as we make our way through life, we may sense the presence of the river.
We may feel a subtle longing to connect with it.
But we are usually moving too fast, or we are distracted, or we fear disturbing the status quo of our surface thoughts and feelings.
It can be unsettling to dip below the familiar and descend into the more mysterious realms of the soul.
In three words
I can sum up
it goes on.
There will be some who
greet you with garbage
even when you come to them
with the most beautiful bouquet.
They will insist that you explain
your light even when they can
see it clearly. Say nothing.
Smile and keep shining.
i can only
give to you
what i have already
given to myself
i can only
the world as much as
i understand myself
you and I
are not about poems or
other sentimental bullshit
but I have to tell you
even the way
you drink your coffee
knocks me the fuck out.
(Clementine von Radics)
You will die
a thousand times
before you wake up
feeling alive in
your own skin.
You will love all
of the wrong hearts
before you realize
the strength in
(D. Antoinette Foy)
A Wish for the Week Ahead
May you remain calm or at least quiet
when faced with a world that is full of
shouting and conflict.
May you remember that you know
who you are, may your heart be open
to what is trying to find you,
and may you allow yourself to
say no without guilt.
May your coffee be strong,
may your meetings be short,
and may all your LOLs be real.
When you fear the abandonment
by another, the probability of you
abandoning yourself goes up.
“If I betray myself enough,
then you won’t leave me.”
These word may never have been spoken exactly that way by you, but the message is often what is present when we fear someone abandoning us.
Wounded attachments from childhood are often where this programming has its origin story.
What must I trade in order to attach? In order to be enough? Chosen? Loved? What must I give away of myself to gain those things from you?
We seek what is familiar to our system, and we can find ourselves re-enacting the past.
Our system gets drawn into familiarity and seeks to recreate in order to find a different outcome.
Except, we can’t guide ourselves to a new outcome if we aren’t awake.
We can’t get there if we abandon or betray ourselves in order to keep another.
This work is HARD. Take a moment here.
What we’re communicating is that it is more threatening to be abandoned by another than to betray ourselves.
Our need to be chosen by another is superior to being chosen by ourselves.
We must journey back into our wounds, trauma, and story to inspect and unpack.
There’s work in our origin story that needs our attention so that we can pivot.
We cannot have authentic connection and attachment if we are abandoning ourselves.
It just won’t work that way.
So if the above is landing for you, begin to consider your origin story around being abandoned.
Explore expectations around relationships.
What do you believe is your partners responsibility with you and vice versa?
What does abandoning yourself feel like?
How have you reasoned that away?
What do you believe being chosen will heal in you?
I don’t want to hear what you believe
I’m not at all interested in your certainty
I couldn’t care less about
your unexcelled perfection
Share with me your doubts
Open up your tender heart
Let me in to your struggles
I’ll meet you in that place
Where your spiritual conclusions
Are starting to crack open
That’s where the creativity lies
That’s where the newness shines
That’s where we can truly meet:
Beyond the image
Are so perfect
In this light
I don’t want you to be perfect
I want you to be real
Nothing more dangerous
than a person who healed himself
with the help of nobody.
If you can rise up
from the shit they left you in,
there’s no MF out there
who can tell you shit.
Speaking from experience.
That’s the truth.