and along with all the lessons
we learned through the pain
and the healing, thank goodness
we also learned how to spot
red flags and bullshit.
What is your profession?
Not, what makes you money?
Rather, what do you wish
to profess to the world?
What is your statement?
What is your anchor?
What is your North Star?
What do you seek?
What do you offer?
To whom do you give your love?
Tell me, what is your heart’s profession?
When life is sweet,
say thank you and celebrate.
And when life is bitter,
say thank you and grow.
Feeling the need to be busy
all the time is a trauma response
and fear-based distraction
from what you’d be forced to
acknowledge and feel
if you slowed down.
Empty words have no
place in my life.
If you talk it,
you gotta walk it.
If not, I have no interest
in what you say.
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,
they won’t last the journey.
Your sense of humour though,
will only get better.
Your intuition will grow and expand
like a majestic cloak of wisdom.
Your ability to choose your battles,
will be fine-tuned to perfection.
Your capacity for stillness,
for living in the moment, will blossom.
And your desire to live each and every moment
will transcend all other wants.
Your instinct for knowing what (and who)
is worth your time, will grow and
flourish like ivy on a castle wall.
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,
they will change forevermore,
that pursuit is one of much
sadness and disappointment.
Prioritise the uniqueness that makes you you,
and the invisible magnet that draws in
other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.
These are the things which will only get better.
It’s odd that we live in a society
that puts toxic family over
We have mothers and fathers
that have hurt us mentally,
physically and emotionally.
Yet, we’re told "but that’s your family."
I say FUCK that.
Remove all toxicity from your life.
When Did You Feel The Most Loved
As A Child?
1) When I was good
2) When I’d worked hard
3) When I won something
4) When I was strong
5) When I was funny
6) When I was a little helper
7) When I was well behaved
8) When I had good manners
9) After a meltdown
10) When I tolerated my parent’s bad behaviour
11) When I was easy going
12) When I looked after my parents
13) When I wasn’t seen
14) When I didn’t ask questions
15) When I was perfect
16) When I was pretty
17) When I was better than others
18) When I was ill
19) When I was needy
20) When I 'got on with it'
Really think back to a moment
you felt loved by a caregiver.
What had you just done?
Are you still doing it now as an adult?
Remember you are lovable without
doing that thing, you can let it go.
Your inner child didn’t just go away.
It sat abandoned & ignored
not understanding why.
Your reactionary anger is based on
this feeling of abandonment.
Not feeling seen, heard, felt or affirmed.
It is time to lift that baby into your arms
and build them up.
The time for self parenting is upon us.
We must reach in those dark places
to emerge in authentic peace & happiness.
(Pallavi Kaushik, pforpoet)
Give every day the chance
to become the most beautiful
day of your life.
Sometimes it’s crucial to turn away
from all spiritual teaching so you
can really, truly learn to listen to
and trust the wisdom within you.
No one holds all the answers.
No one is showing you the
"Absolute Indisputable Way."
No one carries the magical key
that will liberate you.
Trust the truth within you.
It’s all already here.
In the midst of hate, I found there was,
within me, an invincible love.
In the midst of tears, I found there was,
within me, an invincible smile.
In the midst of chaos, I found there was,
within me, an invincible calm.
I realized, through it all, that…
In the midst of winter, I found there was,
within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy.
For it says that no matter how hard
the world pushes against me, within me,
there’s something stronger -
something better, pushing right back.
(Unknown, based on a quote by Albert Camus)
6 THINGS THE NARCISSIST
WILL NEVER GIVE YOU:
1. Peaceful life
(Amanda Jane Soogun)
that which comes nearest
to expressing the inexpressible
There will be days
that you’ll go down
and no one will show up
for you, but you.
These will be the days
you grow a friendship
with yourself the most.
Nothing has more power
over you than your own
influence, love, and care.
There’s nothing more
game changing than
learning to work with
and for yourself,
instead of against.
You’ve got it all wrong.
You didn’t come here to
master unconditional love.
That is where you came from
and where you’ll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love.
Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love.
Infused with divinity.
Lived through the grace of stumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of…
messing up. Often.
You didn’t come here to be perfect.
You already are.
You came here to be gorgeously human.
Flawed and fabulous.
And then to rise again into remembering.
But unconditional love?
Stop telling that story.
Love, in truth, doesn’t need
any other adjectives.
It doesn’t require modifiers.
It doesn’t require the condition of perfection.
It only asks that you show up. And do your best.
That you stay present and feel fully.
That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and
hurt and heal and fall and get back up and
play and work and live and die as YOU.
(Courtney A. Walsh)
when storms come
it's even more important
to anchor into the practices
that settle your waves.
Friends, it is a very triggering time
for many of us.
And it will continue to be so,
for at least a few more weeks.
We are seeing a gnarly battle between
two meaningfully different consciousness.
This was inevitable.
The T-Rex consciousness wants to eat the world
one last time, before fading into oblivion.
They know their time is up.
That's why they are screeching so loudly.
This is how old survivalist paradigms die out,
and how more inclusive paradigms are born.
I know its difficult to imagine in this time
of overwhelm, but it will smooth out
and calm down soon enough.
If you are finding yourself at the edge
right now, please back off from anything
that triggers you. Comfort yourself,
soothe yourself, connect to people
and activities that bring you peace.
This moment will pass.
Just so you know:
It’s okay to adjust your boundaries,
values, and beliefs.
They aren't meant to be set in stone.
You have the right to evolve
and change your mind.
Your body generates
an electromagnetic field
that reaches several feet
outside of your body.
People can feel you.
(Danielle Marie Marggraf)
We all have an inner child.
This little human being,
this vulnerable aspect of us hold
the key to our healing.
Psychologist C.G. Jung explains the child within as “bringer of healing... one who makes whole.”
I couldn’t agree more.
The inner child is the emotional self, the sensitive aspect of us. It is where our irrational feelings live.
It is also where that playful, creative, intuitive spontaneous part of us lives.
To survive this world, we all end up with bruises. And so many of us have learned to deny the child within to one degree or another in order to survive.
Did you have to people-please to be accepted?
Did you have to lie to avoid punishment?
Did you have to be perfect to gain love?
How do we heal our inner child?
The first step is meeting him/her/them with openness,
curiosity and compassion.
When we meet our inner child we discover that our childhood needs were not always met (even with loving parents, many of whom couldn’t give you what they didn’t have themselves).
Our need for unconditional love and acceptance.
Our need for attention, which we couldn’t separate from love and our sense of self-worth.
Our need for emotional and physical safety which was violated if you got hit or yelled at often.
Our need for trust that our caretaker is consistent, which wouldn’t have happened if your parent struggled with their own stress.
Our need for respect, which is often not given to kids.
Our need for guidance.
The absence of the above stated needs may have caused you to experience chronic anxiety in your mind and body, before you even knew what anxiety was. It might have caused you to experience shame, anger, sadness, despair, panic.
All these still reside in you, because they are a part of your unhealed, inner child experience. Recurring emotional and physical problems in adulthood are your inner child’s attempt to speak to you. Listen.
If you are looking for these needs to be healed in all the wrong places - addictions, other people, avoiding, perfecting, numbing, etc., then know that the only way to healing is through your inner child.
The spirit of humanity is called upon
to heal the wounds that centuries of fear,
struggle, and separation have caused.
The crises humanity is facing are to be solved,
not by inventions of the mind like new technologies,
but by the awakening of the heart,
one human at a time.
You are alive today because your soul wants to
help humanity ascend to heart-based consciousness.
It is by going through your own challenges
and finding the opportunity within them
that you contribute most to humanity’s well-being.
Your contribution is not so much what you do
as who you are.
It is your awareness that makes the difference.
As more of you invite heart-based consciousness
into your lives, it becomes easier for others
to make the transition to a new way of being:
at peace with themselves,
humanity, and nature.
The truth always
comes out in the end,
no matter how hard
anyone tries to hide it.
Lies are just a temporary delay
to the inevitable.
Nothing worth having
can be built overnight.
Good things take time.
If you force it,
you’ll wish you hadn’t.
Take your time.
Be patient, my love.
Trust the wait.
This is no
in broad daylight
under a cold white sky,
for the millionth time
the weight of its loss
This is no
This is no
This is the inability
the reality of
This is not where we leave
the past behind.
This is where we mine it
for all of time
until we finally learn something.
This is not where I
This is not where I force myself
to explain the way that my
lack of shock
and anger are intertwined.
This is where I remind myself
that it’s okay if “love”
isn’t the word
that’s coming to me right now.
For love is big and expansive
and lines with grace
and doesn’t need me to sum it all up
into an easily digestible message today.
And that’s okay.
(Morgan Harper Nichols)
What is louder than trauma?
Your deepest knowing.
The soft holiness of your human body.
The way you still remember how to
surrender into magic and mystery.
The beauty of your offering.
And your love.
Your damn good love.
It is quite simple.
When it comes to anything in life -
the work you do,
the art you make -
when it comes to anything,
if it does not create
an avalanche within your chest,
if it does not move you,
and inspire you,
if it does not come from
the deepest part of
who you are,
it is not for you.
It's not for you.
You say "Hello",
and I sense if you are really
pleased to speak with me.
You ask "How are you?",
and I sense if you really
want to hear the answer.
You say "I am fine",
and I sense if you just pretend it.
Maybe you are not even lying,
maybe you believe yourself,
wrapped in a protective bubble of
repression and illusion.
You hug me,
and I sense if your heart is open.
You laugh with me,
and I sense if it is pure joy or
pure fake, or something in between.
You look into my eyes, and I sense
if you identify with your soul
or with your ego in this moment.
Sometimes you hate me for sensing the truth.
Sometimes I hate you for hiding from me.
But when our two souls meet in authenticity,
there is just love.
My challenge is to wait full of compassion
till you stop playing hide and seek again.
Keeping in mind who you really are.
Your challenge is to not force me
playing this game with you,
not trying to convince me that the truth
isn't always the best choice.
You will never convince me of that.
I also played this game often enough.
It kept me away from my soul,
from my vulnerability,
from my aliveness.
That’s the price we pay for it.
First it feels comfortable and easy,
but after some time
it feels just hollow and craven.
If you are brave enough to look at
your own blind, dark spots and wounds,
and really FEEL them, you automatically
see behind the masks of the others,
if you want it or not.
My friend, I invite you to
take off your mask and
be who you really are;
each second, each day,
I can handle the truth.
You can handle the truth.
I simply love the courageous and
authentic version of
CUT THE CRAP
Literally, cut the unnecessary
distractions out of your life -
delete apps, unfriend and
unfollow toxic people,
stop committing to activities
you don’t care about.
Life is too short.
to take into 2021
I am whole and enough
with or without someone
standing next to me.
I am learning how to
bravely trust my voice.
I am taking my time
and healing slowly
I am open to change
even when it’s uncomfortable
I am a student of life
who is committed to
learning, growing, and
I am showing up in
my healing by mentoring
my younger self.
I am grateful for what
I have and I appreciate
all it’s taken to arrive
in my power.
I was made for greatness,
and I will not shrink or settle
for the comfort of others.
As long as I am alive,
I can change and expand.
I trust in my ability
to extend grace
throughout the process.
Everything has changed and yet,
I am more me than I’ve ever been.